By Briana Bass, Christian Romance Author, Devotional Writer & Certified Professional Coach

There’s a group of Christian women who don’t fit neatly into conversative or progressive categories. They live in-between, holding convictions that don’t align perfectly with either side. And because of this they feel isolated and misunderstood, facing criticism and silencing from both camps.

If you are one of these women, then you know this tension very well. You desire belonging and affirmation but receive ridicule and scorn instead. In today’s political climate cultural polarization amplifies the fear you carry. The middle ground feels like no ground at all. How do you define yourself in a world that seeks to force manmade labels on you? Where do you find refuge in a society that demands you take sides?

The answer is Jesus. He frees us from fear. See, fear of judgement can paralyze spiritual growth. God offers a way forward-courage, authenticity, and freedom in Christ. When we anchor ourselves in the truth that we are beloved daughters of God, we throw off the shackles of political and theological camps. We find freedom.

How Jesus Handled Criticism

Jesus faced criticism. He didn’t fit within manmade categories either. He honored Mosaic law yet challenged its misuses, particularly when it came to classism within the Jewish community. Criticism didn’t stop Him from healing, feeding, and welcoming outsiders. He stayed focused on His mission rather than seeking a reputation that appeased man.

How did He do it? By speaking truth plainly, even when it was unpopular. By responding with questions and inviting reflection rather than escalating conflict. By praying for His critics. He reframed criticism into teachable moments (think of all His parables). Most importantly, He refused to retaliate with violent and instead demonstrated strength, humility, and trust in God. Ultimately, Jesus chose radical love over fear, providing a model for us to follow today.

Criticism is often a sign of faithfulness, not failure. Faithfulness can mean standing outside rigid human labels. Jesus refused to be boxed in by religious or political boxes. We should strive to do the same. To follow Him is to love boldly and to endure criticism for the sake of truth. In Christ we are free from the need to please everyone: “For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? For if I were still pleasing men, I wouldn’t be a servant of Christ” (Galatians 1:10, WEB). Your identity is in Christ, not in labels. Refusing to fit into manmade categories allows you to live authentically, honoring the complexity of your faith journey and being faithful to the call God has placed on your life.

Your Identity is Secure in Christ

You may have a fear of compromise and rejection. This fear is not unfounded. Many women have experienced harsh judgment, subtle exclusion, or outright dismissal. But fear is not the final word. Like Jesus, you can choose silence when words won’t help, ask questions to open dialogue, and speak truth with compassion. When we follow His example we realize that criticism is a chance to provide clarity and to engage in dialogue in ways that point other people to Him.

Don’t forget that your worth is defined by God, not man. God values authenticity and integrity. The struggle for belonging is real, but we are called to follow Jesus, not people. God honors faithfulness over conformity:

The fear of man proves to be a snare,
    but whoever puts his trust in Yahweh is kept safe.
Proverbs 29:25, WEB

You are made in the image of God. Your identity should not be defined by culture but anchored in divine design. This means your value is inherent, not earned. There is nothing you need to do to make Jesus love you. He already does. Put your faith in Him, not people.

Also keep in mind that not all criticism deserves attention. You must learn to filter voices and listen to those that build up instead of tear down. Work on reframing criticism as well. Not every critique deserves space in your soul. Embrace your in-between identity as a Christlike stance-standing in the gap, often misunderstood but always faithful. This will allow you to live authentically, serving others without striving for approval.

Your Unique Experience is Valuable

While fear of criticism is real, it doesn’t have to define you. Embrace your unique faith journey as a woman in the in-between. That’s where Jesus stands. Remember, faith is bigger than labels, deeper than politics, and richer than categories. It’s not about measuring up-it’s about resting in His love and embracing the freedom of being fully known and fully valued.

My friend, you are not alone. Many women face the same struggle. Though it doesn’t always feel like it, living in the middle can be a gift. The church needs your courage, your authenticity, and your willingness to stand in the tension. So stand tall, sister. Live your faith.